Don’T WoRry AboUt iT
Isn’t it funny how encouragement comes just when you need it? After having a hard time letting go of some of the actions of others, I was reading some articles from the yogajournal.com and this excerpt concerning equanimity written by Frank Jude Boccio really stuck out to me:
Appreciating and delighting in the qualities of virtuous people will inspire us to cultivate such virtues ourselves. And finally, when we are faced with those we deem nonvirtuous, the classical yoga tradition teaches that we should strive to have an indifferent attitude toward them. Often, we indulge in judging and criticizing those who we feel are misguided. This hardly helps us maintain a serene state of mind! Commentators in the classical yoga tradition point out that the yogi should not divert attention from his or her own practice in order to try to reform those who are unlikely to heed advice. As Satchidananda points out, “If you try to advise them, you will lose your peace.”
I have always noted in those I look to emulate an ability to be what I may have described as ‘detached’ from situations in a way that allows their character to SHINE. It is not that they do not care about others. It is more like they care a lot about all others, but have found a way to allow things to happen around them without letting it ‘get’ to them if you know what I mean. I always wondered how these people got to be the way that they are. Perhaps there is an element of natural giftedness, and perhaps it has more to do with coming to know and fully accept one self to the point where the perception of others truly has little to no control over the inner spirit. I would like to get there one day.